WE NEED PROPER ORIENTATION AND NASIHA (SINCERE ADMONISHMENT AND CONFORMANCE)

Every centre for Islamic knowledge (madrasah) shouldn’t focus on teaching Qur’an and lugha (i.e Arabic literature) only…In spite the fact that we need them, emphasis ought to be given especially in the field of proper knowledge of Aqeedah (Fundamentals of belief), Tarbiyyah (proper training and upbringing) and Adab (good morals) to our sisters……
Going around blabbing or babbling in the midst of brothers reluctantly both online and offline, is among the unwanted part because they can easily lose their dignity both online and offline. And seeing a sister cursing and using abusive words online or offline is lamentable because, this contradict the teachings of Islam….. SubhanAllah where is the haya’a (bashfulness & modesty) for Allah’s sake?

Every madrasah need to create an avenue for special female training on khulq (character and code of conduct) at least once a month or at least a week based on the convenience…..Wallahi we, the sisters need it. Often times you feel sad inside of yourself seeing what some sisters are doing…..
If you want to know more about sisters/ummus (mothers), just live with them either in school hostels or madrasah hostels or move along with them for an appreciable length of time and you shall be surprised with their nonchalant and adamancy towards their solaat (prayers). It’s no surprising hearing some married Muslim sisters speaking out of no shame how they spend their time watching improper and unnecessary movies at home!….. What action is the husband taking on this?

Dear husband be very much concerned about your wife’s movements and her use of phone….. If you as a husband keep mute with the way your wife keep molesting herself on social media, definitely you still have a big problem to deal with, because she will end up raising your children as such…

Majority of the WhatsApp groups confer not positive impacts but rather an ill-mindset and and a mischievous inclination.
In turn, this negative mindset of some sisters has affected many homes…. The group admin(s) pioneering or navigating Islamic groups most often times lack proper Islamic knowledge and the Shari’ah (Islamic jurisprudence)….. Judging by this, the problem is not going to be solved easily because those navigating social groups lack proper knowledge of the Deen (religion).

With the internet making the world a global village, online interactions are now on to the furthest extremes. Both brothers and sisters need to realize that sharing the same group chat (chat room) does not negate the rules of modesty and khalwa (seclusion) while interacting with the opposite gender…… So, gender sensitiveness ought to be considered in situations like such. The Sisters claim they are indoors but their phones are creating more harm than good for them…..
Our teachers and husbands (may Allah preserve them upon goodness) need to help us (i.e we the sisters) by putting more efforts in orientating us more and more and also giving us Nasiha (sincere admonishment and conformance), for indeed Nasiha form a core part of the our Deen (religion) …. Females are not what you just train and leave. There’s need for continual orientation and Nasiha. And forget not to be concerned knowing who your wife mingle and walks with. For Ad-dayyut (The unjealous and uncaring of their wife’s matter) shall not enter paradise, as said by our noble Prophet Muhammad PBUH…..
If you as the husband want a good training and proper upbringing (tarbiyah) for your children, then you need to start from their mother (your wife). For the mother, is the first university……
Try accessing their activities on social media platforms if that won’t create problems. Because those are part of your responsibility as the head of the home….

Sisters, don’t be deceived by motivational speakers or those defending your misguidance.
All the social media uploads, posts and comments of yours, is none but but your own responsibility, and you shall be held accountable for them. Don’t be surprised seeing some of those posts after many years. So, be careful of what you post and upload.

If you can’t use social media without causing fitnah or indulging in ill talks, then it’s high time you quit and save yourself. For indeed you shall be held accountable for everything you post and upload.

As a mother, don’t just hold the belief of becoming a good mother to your children, you start from now through your actions and commitments…. A good Lady becomes a good wife and a good wife becomes a good mother and vice versa…..

Let your focus in life be how to please your Lord.
How to preserve your dignity at home and outside.
And how to benefit your female folk through knowledge and Nasiha (sincere admonishment and conformance). For indeed striving and investing in knowledge pays the best interest.

Lastly, understand those from whom you take knowledge from….. Put emotions and western ideology/culture at bay and learn more about Islam in line with the way of the salafs as-saliheen (righteous predecessors)

May Allah increase us in understanding, preserve our teachers upon goodness and rectify the affairs of this Ummah (Islamic nation)

Aameen

Written by: Bint Abdulgoniyy Ummu Sumayyah

Lessons from Tafseer class of Dr Faadil Al Imam حفظه الله ورعاه وسدد خطاه (Ramadan 22nd)

Introduction

Today’s Tafseer continues from Aayah : 21

  1. Yesterday’s Tafseer stopped at when the man that bought Yuusuf as slave was giving reasons why his wife should take good care of Yuusuf.
  2. Those without virtues and wealth are closer to Ikhlaaṣ (sincerity) than wealthy people which is rare to see the latter doing good sincerely.
  3. Benefits the couples gained from Yuusuf:
    1. He was trustworthy for their properties and life. Yuusuf :54
    2. He benefitted his boss by not committing illicit act with his wife. Yuusuf : 23
    3. He benefitted them by interpreting the dream which save the whole nation from famine.
    4. He benefitted the whole nation by being their minister of finance
  4. The word عسى أن ينفعنا… the wife misinterpreted the benefit as illicit. This is a message to serious men to distance their wives from mixing with non Marham. And Islam has warned against this free mixing in line with hadith of ‘Uqbah bn Aamir ” beware of being in seclusion with women then a man asked what about my male relatives, then the Prophet replied relatives are death.
  5. It is erroneous to call another person’s wife as my wife as it is common in Yorùbá culture.
  6. Majority of incidents of Zinaa that occurred in our society today are due to negligence on free mixing
  7. The reason why the king didn’t make Yuusuf as son? The response to this, though the man loved Yuusuf and wished to make him son but the illicit act of his wife prevented that. This similar thing happened to Muusaa though it was the husband (Fir’awn) that prevented Muusaa to be their son.
  8. Is it allowed to adopt a child in Islam? It is not allowed check Ahzaab:5
  9. Anyone ascribed to name other than his father’s or grandfather should get affidavit to change it to avoid wrath of Allâh.
  10. This Aayah shows that adoption of children were common in past generations before Islam prohibited it
  11. The statement نتخده ولدا might mean that the wife was barren though one can’t say this authoritatively.
  12. The peak of our life is love. Where there is love there will be progress and absence of it means setback.
  13. If one loves Allâh and His Prophet, it will be difficult to hate those practising the Sunnah of the Prophet and his ways.
  14. There are similarities between Muusaa and Yuusuf stories. Yuusuf came before Muusaa though Muusaa was superior
  15. Yuusuf trial started with dream and he was triumph with dream. Muusaa also started his life with water and later became victory over Fir’awn through water
  16. They both also shared being love by those who adopted them.
  17. They both lived their lives in Egypt.
  18. The bosses of both of them were high personnels and they were being taken cared by their wives.
  19. The decision on both of them were similar as both bosses agreed that they should keep them perhaps they might see benefits from them or take them as sons. It was male boss that took decision on Yuusuf as he was old enough then while it was woman that took decision on Muusaa since he was young then. Had it been it was the wife that made the decision of Yuusuf’s the husband might have been suspicious about his wife decision.
  20. Both of them weren’t able to be adopted as sons by their bosses though they both benefitted their bosses. The benefits of Muusaa to the household of Fir’awn was that the wife became Muslimah. Yuusuf even benefitted both husband and wife
  21. Both of them were abducted
  22. To cap it up check Suratul Gaafir : 34 and this happened to be the only place where Yuusuf name was mentioned in all Qur’an outside Suratu Yuusuf. This Aayah crept in place where Muusaa story was narrated and the story continued after this Aayah. This buttresses the fact that there are similarities in their stories
  23. Anyone under a boss should be obedient and loyal to him. If you have been loved by your boss and you are loyal to him that can be Sabab of your success in life.
  24. Majority of people who wrecked in life are due to their pomposity towards their bosses, teachers or ingratefulness. Parents should educate their children to appreciate those who do good to them and never feel pompous towards them
  25. Prophets and pious that Allâh established them in life with wealth:
    1. Yuusuf : Yuusuf : 21, 54
    2. Dhul Qarnaynn: Kahf 83 – 84
    3. Believers Hajj: 41, A’raaf :10

17 The والله غالب على أمره places where similar statements were used in Qur’an :
Imraan :160, Maaidah :23, 56, Qaṣaṣ :35, Ṣaaffaat : 173

وصلى الله وسلم على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين

Lessons from Tafseer class of Dr Faadil Al Imam حفظه الله ورعاه (Ramadan 9th)

Introduction

Today’s Tafseer starts from Aayah :

  1. Qur’an is means of success by reading, listening and staying with it. One can’t be unfortunate by staying with teachings of Qur’an. The verse started with لقد which is double emphasis and it implies attention to series of benefits embedded in this story and calling to ponder over this story and reflect on it
  2. A lot of lessons are embedded in story of Yuusuf both religious and worldly benefits. And these can be achieved by the one who is calmed and eager to learn.
  3. Something that comes After the word كما is greater than what is before it
  4. Favours bestowed on Prophet Ibrahim and Is-haaq were considered greater, this was due to the fact that these favors were preceded by trials and tribulations
  5. The peak of trial that afflicted Prophet Ibrahim was mentioned in Qur’an Suratul Anbiyaai : 68-70
  6. In knowledge of Balaagah the one being compared with is greater than comparer
  7. The story of Yuusuf focused on Yuusuf and his siblings. Any other issue that occurred during the course of the story was not as important like Yuusuf and his siblings. No wonder the story started by mentioning Yuusuf and his siblings and ended with them
  8. Both إخوة and إخوان have basic usage. إخوة basically to show blood relative as used in this Aayah, also in verse 58, verse 5.
    • As for إخوان is basically for friendship as used in Suratul Aalil ‘Imraan: 103, Suratul Hijr: 47,Suratul Israai: 27
    • However both can be used interchangeably for reasons : as used in Suratul Hujuraat : 10. It means that you should relate like blood relative
    • In Suratul Nuur: 61 إخوان was used in place of إخوة for the purpose that the blood related should eat like friends without being shy
  9. Aayaat as plural was used in the verse to indicate that this story would be full of benefits. Therefore, one should be calm to derive many benefits from the story.
  10. The word السائلين as used in the verse can be interpreted in two
    • To mean those Jews that came to ask about the story from the Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم in order to disgrace him
    • Or refer to those reading or listening to the story to be calm in order to derive many lessons form the story be they scholars or listeners.
  11. Twelve (12) lessons and signs are embedded in this story which are derived from 5 verses :
    • Lessons for those asking how parents should relate with their children
    • Lessons on how parents should advise and warn their children to be careful of evils of close relatives without breaking tie of kinship
    • Lessons on how children should relate with their parents
    • Lessons on how siblings should relate with one another
    • Unbeatable power of Allâh that can never be overpowered
    • Allâh can choose person at any point in life be it young or old age and this serves as hope to all.
    • Dreams and principles on how to interpret dreams
    • Benefits of patience as exemplified by many personalities in the story and their good ending
    • To be successful in life, one needs to struggle
    • Conceiving favours Allâh bestowed on one by guiding them from the eyes of enviers. As it is well known that the more favours, the more one will be envied
    • Competition is inevitable in life and it forms the foundation why people show hatred to one another as evident in the story
    • How to gain freedom from the prison and still be relevant to the society
  12. Similitude of this methodology in Qur’an where سائلين or its derivatives are used in narrating stories : Suuratu Fuṣilat: 10, Suratun Nabai:1, Suratul Ma’aarij: 1
  13. وصلى الله وسلم على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين