PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND UPBRINGING FROM THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(part 5)

As a religious family, don’t let environment to train your children….. It is disdainful seeing a niqobite children cursing or using bad slang and you as a mother feel adamant towards it……
The issue of exposing children to play outside is a ill-hearted idea……. Stop quoting from those that do say; children get dull when they don’t play outside…….. The way children play indoors is sufficient for a good or proper training for them especially if you know the type of environment you live. Some environments are so corrupt that when kids initiate talk, they do so using foul languages….. This is worth crying for a parent if truly you want them to be upright…..
The environment we find ourselves is unconducive that the best thing to do, is to allow your children to be indoors while also distancing your children from anyone who will get them used to foul or offensive language as part and parcel of their character……

Another point to draw also is how do we train our children to be bold? When they (children) are with their family, friends or visitors, force them to talk…..
Organize an avenue in your home where the husband give lectures and you give them room to say their mind and to equally contribute to the subject matter……. With programmes like this, they build confidence and the courage to express themselves. An avenue like such aforementioned can prepare them to give Da’awah anywhere they are, and they will have something good for the world to benefit…..

May Allah make it easy for us all

To be continued…

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND PROPER UPBRINGING RIGHT FROM AN EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(part 4)

Always endeavor to train your children not cry because they want to make requests from you ….. If you keep saying you don’t want them to cry or you are disturbed whenever they cry, so you give them what they want all the time, then this is a mistake, its very wrong, know that this is a bad training and it will never favour you….. It always amazes me when a child cries to collect something important , knowing fully well that they will destroy it and yet you hand it over to them…… Don’t be surprised when he cries even at the age of 10 just because he wants something which you are not capable of….
That’s why I’m not in support of the habit of giving children Money, once they are used to it, they will always cry to ask for it and this isn’t helping their future or the contentment you want to build in them…..
When we were small and someone gave us 5 naira or 10 naira, we mustn’t spend it….. We will make sure we give it to our mum and she won’t give it back to us, she prefers to have those biscuit/sweet at home to compensate us but she hardly gives money to children….that’s even when we have the opportunity of having 10 naira, we can keep it for a week without spending it, but nowadays you will be surprised seeing a child of 3 years spending 100 naira anyhow …… And he/she requests for it like that almost everytime ….. This behaviour may lead to destruction if care is not taken

May Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes

To be continued……

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND PROPER UPBRINGING RIGHT FROM AN THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(part 3)

It always so saddening when you see those that are assumed religious and masha Allah UMMU outside involving in this silly act “Bathing together with your children” just because they are still small especially a male child subhānalloh! Even if he is just a year old, what does it take you to bath separately?? A mother isn’t expected to feel comfortable bathing with their male child, its unreasonable….. What are you teaching him??
What do you want him to turn out to be in the future??
Even inside the house, you should know how to dress especially when your male children are available…. Children of nowadays have a very retentive memory that when they see something while still very small , they tend to capture it in their memory and you will be surprised when they say it out /or practice it some times has passed, then they take is as a manhaj…..
Ask yourself, what memory am I building in my children??
Some engage in this in the presence of their husbands (I wonder which kind of men they are) while many do this in the absence of the husband ….. As a woman or a husband, you need to keep monitoring your wife(ves) from time to time, women can be so funny/naughty at times even if they are religious…..
And as for those that engage in it, please try to stop it in order to help the future of your children

To be continued…..

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.