ROLE REVERSAL

I don’t know what prompted me, but I noticed the ratio of women to men in a banking hall recently and wondered why this particular bank virtually employed only women; then I was in another on another occasion and the story was the same. I then said to myself: Poor men, their jobs have been snatched. Except for security concerns, some banks would employ no men at all.

When women sit at home, the work environment is less licentious, husbands and children get the best care and marriages and societies fare better. When men sit at home, the rest of the story is yours to tell…

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَىٰ ۖ
“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.” [Qur,aan 33:33].

Written by: Sheikh Murtado Adedokun, Hafidhahullah.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND UPBRINGING FROM THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(concluding part)

One of the major things a parent must try to teach their children is how to be conscious of their Solaat….. It’s so disgusting when a mother is careless about the solaat of their children thinking they are still young. Don’t wait till 7 years before commanding them to pray. Get them used to it before that age….. Children who are cognizant of their solaat prior to age 7, need not anyone to force them to pray…..
But if your own children still find it difficult to pray at that age, then you compel them to do so…… As for solaat, do not take it lightly upon them.
If they resist on praying at age 10, flog them and don’t spare them. But if you yourself as a mother do not care about their solaat at that age, then you have a serious problem….. It’s pitiful seeing a child of 8 or 9 still toying with solaat or do not know how to pray properly. the best you could do as a parent is, to build your children from the very early stage of their life……
A lot of children will be compelled to pray at age 10 and they still feel reluctant towards it… This is an issue that brought tears to one’s eyes.

Lastly, enjoin your children to seek for Islamic knowledge…..Teach them about Tawheed, Correct creed (Aqeedah), Qur’an and others …… I don’t know why some Sunni still toy about their children’s Islamic education…. The fitnah from the people of innovation this days, is lack of proper knowledge….. We don’t know what will happen in the future time, so we need to start impacting better things on our children……

This is for the parent, most especially the mothers because I believed that, ”a good wife builds a good home” ….When the woman lack proper knowledge, the children inevitably become victim of it. Thus, the saying goes, ”charity begins at home”……

Enjoy this from part one to the end as you enjoy other stories…..

May Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes, rectify the affairs of this ummah and grant us everlasting happiness (Jannah).

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND PROPER UPBRINGING RIGHT FROM AN THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(part 3)

It always so saddening when you see those that are assumed religious and masha Allah UMMU outside involving in this silly act “Bathing together with your children” just because they are still small especially a male child subhānalloh! Even if he is just a year old, what does it take you to bath separately?? A mother isn’t expected to feel comfortable bathing with their male child, its unreasonable….. What are you teaching him??
What do you want him to turn out to be in the future??
Even inside the house, you should know how to dress especially when your male children are available…. Children of nowadays have a very retentive memory that when they see something while still very small , they tend to capture it in their memory and you will be surprised when they say it out /or practice it some times has passed, then they take is as a manhaj…..
Ask yourself, what memory am I building in my children??
Some engage in this in the presence of their husbands (I wonder which kind of men they are) while many do this in the absence of the husband ….. As a woman or a husband, you need to keep monitoring your wife(ves) from time to time, women can be so funny/naughty at times even if they are religious…..
And as for those that engage in it, please try to stop it in order to help the future of your children

To be continued…..

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.