Question 385: Visiting the family of a deceased christain.

Assalamu alaykum sir
May Allah grant you goodness and make you end well.
Is it permissible to pay a condolent visit to the family of a deceased Christian… If yes, what are the etiquettes that should be observed

Wa alaykum as-salaamu wa rahmatullahi.

Praise be to Allah; may the blessing and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah.

To proceed:

There is nothing wrong in offering condolence to the relatives of a non Muslim who has just died on condition that the person did not declare enmity against Islam and the Muslims while he was alive since Allah does not forbid us from being nice to such people.
Allah says:
(لَّا یَنۡهَاكُمُ ٱللَّهُ عَنِ ٱلَّذِینَ لَمۡ یُقَـٰتِلُوكُمۡ فِی ٱلدِّینِ وَلَمۡ یُخۡرِجُوكُم مِّن دِیَـٰرِكُمۡ أَن تَبَرُّوهُمۡ وَتُقۡسِطُوۤا۟ إِلَیۡهِمۡۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ یُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُقۡسِطِین)

Translation of the meaning
( Allah does not forbid you from being nice and just to those who do not fight you and do not chase you out of your dwellings. Certainly Allah loves the just ones)

[Surah Al-Mumtahana 8]

As for how to commiserate with his relatives, we ask them to be patient on the loss that has befallen them and ask Allah to rectify what he left behind.

Wallahu A’lam

Answered by: Ustadh Abdulghani Jumat:,Hafidhahullah.


One of the major things a parent must try to teach their children is how to be conscious of their Solaat….. It’s so disgusting when a mother is careless about the solaat of their children thinking they are still young. Don’t wait till 7 years before commanding them to pray. Get them used to it before that age….. Children who are cognizant of their solaat prior to age 7, need not anyone to force them to pray…..
But if your own children still find it difficult to pray at that age, then you compel them to do so…… As for solaat, do not take it lightly upon them.
If they resist on praying at age 10, flog them and don’t spare them. But if you yourself as a mother do not care about their solaat at that age, then you have a serious problem….. It’s pitiful seeing a child of 8 or 9 still toying with solaat or do not know how to pray properly. the best you could do as a parent is, to build your children from the very early stage of their life……
A lot of children will be compelled to pray at age 10 and they still feel reluctant towards it… This is an issue that brought tears to one’s eyes.

Lastly, enjoin your children to seek for Islamic knowledge…..Teach them about Tawheed, Correct creed (Aqeedah), Qur’an and others …… I don’t know why some Sunni still toy about their children’s Islamic education…. The fitnah from the people of innovation this days, is lack of proper knowledge….. We don’t know what will happen in the future time, so we need to start impacting better things on our children……

This is for the parent, most especially the mothers because I believed that, ”a good wife builds a good home” ….When the woman lack proper knowledge, the children inevitably become victim of it. Thus, the saying goes, ”charity begins at home”……

Enjoy this from part one to the end as you enjoy other stories…..

May Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes, rectify the affairs of this ummah and grant us everlasting happiness (Jannah).

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.


As a religious family, don’t let environment to train your children….. It is disdainful seeing a niqobite children cursing or using bad slang and you as a mother feel adamant towards it……
The issue of exposing children to play outside is a ill-hearted idea……. Stop quoting from those that do say; children get dull when they don’t play outside…….. The way children play indoors is sufficient for a good or proper training for them especially if you know the type of environment you live. Some environments are so corrupt that when kids initiate talk, they do so using foul languages….. This is worth crying for a parent if truly you want them to be upright…..
The environment we find ourselves is unconducive that the best thing to do, is to allow your children to be indoors while also distancing your children from anyone who will get them used to foul or offensive language as part and parcel of their character……

Another point to draw also is how do we train our children to be bold? When they (children) are with their family, friends or visitors, force them to talk…..
Organize an avenue in your home where the husband give lectures and you give them room to say their mind and to equally contribute to the subject matter……. With programmes like this, they build confidence and the courage to express themselves. An avenue like such aforementioned can prepare them to give Da’awah anywhere they are, and they will have something good for the world to benefit…..

May Allah make it easy for us all

To be continued…

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.