Every centre for Islamic knowledge (madrasah) shouldn’t focus on teaching Qur’an and lugha (i.e Arabic literature) only…In spite the fact that we need them, emphasis ought to be given especially in the field of proper knowledge of Aqeedah (Fundamentals of belief), Tarbiyyah (proper training and upbringing) and Adab (good morals) to our sisters……
Going around blabbing or babbling in the midst of brothers reluctantly both online and offline, is among the unwanted part because they can easily lose their dignity both online and offline. And seeing a sister cursing and using abusive words online or offline is lamentable because, this contradict the teachings of Islam….. SubhanAllah where is the haya’a (bashfulness & modesty) for Allah’s sake?
Every madrasah need to create an avenue for special female training on khulq (character and code of conduct) at least once a month or at least a week based on the convenience…..Wallahi we, the sisters need it. Often times you feel sad inside of yourself seeing what some sisters are doing…..
If you want to know more about sisters/ummus (mothers), just live with them either in school hostels or madrasah hostels or move along with them for an appreciable length of time and you shall be surprised with their nonchalant and adamancy towards their solaat (prayers). It’s no surprising hearing some married Muslim sisters speaking out of no shame how they spend their time watching improper and unnecessary movies at home!….. What action is the husband taking on this?
Dear husband be very much concerned about your wife’s movements and her use of phone….. If you as a husband keep mute with the way your wife keep molesting herself on social media, definitely you still have a big problem to deal with, because she will end up raising your children as such…
Majority of the WhatsApp groups confer not positive impacts but rather an ill-mindset and and a mischievous inclination.
In turn, this negative mindset of some sisters has affected many homes…. The group admin(s) pioneering or navigating Islamic groups most often times lack proper Islamic knowledge and the Shari’ah (Islamic jurisprudence)….. Judging by this, the problem is not going to be solved easily because those navigating social groups lack proper knowledge of the Deen (religion).
With the internet making the world a global village, online interactions are now on to the furthest extremes. Both brothers and sisters need to realize that sharing the same group chat (chat room) does not negate the rules of modesty and khalwa (seclusion) while interacting with the opposite gender…… So, gender sensitiveness ought to be considered in situations like such. The Sisters claim they are indoors but their phones are creating more harm than good for them…..
Our teachers and husbands (may Allah preserve them upon goodness) need to help us (i.e we the sisters) by putting more efforts in orientating us more and more and also giving us Nasiha (sincere admonishment and conformance), for indeed Nasiha form a core part of the our Deen (religion) …. Females are not what you just train and leave. There’s need for continual orientation and Nasiha. And forget not to be concerned knowing who your wife mingle and walks with. For Ad-dayyut (The unjealous and uncaring of their wife’s matter) shall not enter paradise, as said by our noble Prophet Muhammad PBUH…..
If you as the husband want a good training and proper upbringing (tarbiyah) for your children, then you need to start from their mother (your wife). For the mother, is the first university……
Try accessing their activities on social media platforms if that won’t create problems. Because those are part of your responsibility as the head of the home….
Sisters, don’t be deceived by motivational speakers or those defending your misguidance.
All the social media uploads, posts and comments of yours, is none but but your own responsibility, and you shall be held accountable for them. Don’t be surprised seeing some of those posts after many years. So, be careful of what you post and upload.
If you can’t use social media without causing fitnah or indulging in ill talks, then it’s high time you quit and save yourself. For indeed you shall be held accountable for everything you post and upload.
As a mother, don’t just hold the belief of becoming a good mother to your children, you start from now through your actions and commitments…. A good Lady becomes a good wife and a good wife becomes a good mother and vice versa…..
Let your focus in life be how to please your Lord.
How to preserve your dignity at home and outside.
And how to benefit your female folk through knowledge and Nasiha (sincere admonishment and conformance). For indeed striving and investing in knowledge pays the best interest.
Lastly, understand those from whom you take knowledge from….. Put emotions and western ideology/culture at bay and learn more about Islam in line with the way of the salafs as-saliheen (righteous predecessors)
May Allah increase us in understanding, preserve our teachers upon goodness and rectify the affairs of this Ummah (Islamic nation)
Written by: Bint Abdulgoniyy Ummu Sumayyah