Did majority of us see marriage as Ibadah?? NO
Marriage is not a place you will just go and have fun alone….. You can face some trials but as long as you know it part of ibadah….. You will always turn to Allah whenever you face a trial…. When preparing for marriage, we do use our night to have fun instead of seeking Allah’s intervention as prescribed by the prophet, Sallallohu ‘alaehi wasallaam ….. Have it in mind that everything you are doing for your husband you shall have reward for it….. If you have this in mind, and fear Allah you will always try to please him to have the mercy of your lord.
Sisters do rush into marriage without proper steps and discussion…..
Steps like ….. Istikharoh, istisharoh, meeting one’s parents I.e did your parent have any discussion with him,did he have regards for them…. So if issues occur he will be respecting your parent before he misbehave…… Or he just come and you rushed in picking up a date for aqd….. Those that marry from right source gan did you think they are free from trial ?? Not to talk of you that didn’t present your family too well and you Don’t even take a step to know about his family and his background.
Excessive packaging….. Sisters are full of excess packaging, when you meet some sisters for the first time their mode of saying teslim lasan,how they package outside and how they pretend to be masha Allah (effizy po)….when they are about to do Nikkah,they keep asking religion questions every time from the intending spouse so as to portray themselves well allas reverse is the case, for instance: they keep waking him up for tahajjud through phone calls and text mssgs, small thing they will start twisting voice and brothers head too will start swelling and reacting like chemical, they will start expecting high after Nikkah….. but afterwards the story changes ….. Abu will be like is this not sister fulanah that I got married to??…..smiles
No one is saying you shouldn’t be good,but be real and let them know your weak point so they can know where to start their work from and to know the true picture of whom they are about to engage(deal) with….. LET THEM ACCEPT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE AND DON’T OVER STATE YOURSELF
To be continue………
Written by: Bint Abdulghoniyy Ummu Mujaheed, May Allaah preserve her.