WE NEED PROPER ORIENTATION AND NASIHA (SINCERE ADMONISHMENT AND CONFORMANCE)

Every centre for Islamic knowledge (madrasah) shouldn’t focus on teaching Qur’an and lugha (i.e Arabic literature) only…In spite the fact that we need them, emphasis ought to be given especially in the field of proper knowledge of Aqeedah (Fundamentals of belief), Tarbiyyah (proper training and upbringing) and Adab (good morals) to our sisters……
Going around blabbing or babbling in the midst of brothers reluctantly both online and offline, is among the unwanted part because they can easily lose their dignity both online and offline. And seeing a sister cursing and using abusive words online or offline is lamentable because, this contradict the teachings of Islam….. SubhanAllah where is the haya’a (bashfulness & modesty) for Allah’s sake?

Every madrasah need to create an avenue for special female training on khulq (character and code of conduct) at least once a month or at least a week based on the convenience…..Wallahi we, the sisters need it. Often times you feel sad inside of yourself seeing what some sisters are doing…..
If you want to know more about sisters/ummus (mothers), just live with them either in school hostels or madrasah hostels or move along with them for an appreciable length of time and you shall be surprised with their nonchalant and adamancy towards their solaat (prayers). It’s no surprising hearing some married Muslim sisters speaking out of no shame how they spend their time watching improper and unnecessary movies at home!….. What action is the husband taking on this?

Dear husband be very much concerned about your wife’s movements and her use of phone….. If you as a husband keep mute with the way your wife keep molesting herself on social media, definitely you still have a big problem to deal with, because she will end up raising your children as such…

Majority of the WhatsApp groups confer not positive impacts but rather an ill-mindset and and a mischievous inclination.
In turn, this negative mindset of some sisters has affected many homes…. The group admin(s) pioneering or navigating Islamic groups most often times lack proper Islamic knowledge and the Shari’ah (Islamic jurisprudence)….. Judging by this, the problem is not going to be solved easily because those navigating social groups lack proper knowledge of the Deen (religion).

With the internet making the world a global village, online interactions are now on to the furthest extremes. Both brothers and sisters need to realize that sharing the same group chat (chat room) does not negate the rules of modesty and khalwa (seclusion) while interacting with the opposite gender…… So, gender sensitiveness ought to be considered in situations like such. The Sisters claim they are indoors but their phones are creating more harm than good for them…..
Our teachers and husbands (may Allah preserve them upon goodness) need to help us (i.e we the sisters) by putting more efforts in orientating us more and more and also giving us Nasiha (sincere admonishment and conformance), for indeed Nasiha form a core part of the our Deen (religion) …. Females are not what you just train and leave. There’s need for continual orientation and Nasiha. And forget not to be concerned knowing who your wife mingle and walks with. For Ad-dayyut (The unjealous and uncaring of their wife’s matter) shall not enter paradise, as said by our noble Prophet Muhammad PBUH…..
If you as the husband want a good training and proper upbringing (tarbiyah) for your children, then you need to start from their mother (your wife). For the mother, is the first university……
Try accessing their activities on social media platforms if that won’t create problems. Because those are part of your responsibility as the head of the home….

Sisters, don’t be deceived by motivational speakers or those defending your misguidance.
All the social media uploads, posts and comments of yours, is none but but your own responsibility, and you shall be held accountable for them. Don’t be surprised seeing some of those posts after many years. So, be careful of what you post and upload.

If you can’t use social media without causing fitnah or indulging in ill talks, then it’s high time you quit and save yourself. For indeed you shall be held accountable for everything you post and upload.

As a mother, don’t just hold the belief of becoming a good mother to your children, you start from now through your actions and commitments…. A good Lady becomes a good wife and a good wife becomes a good mother and vice versa…..

Let your focus in life be how to please your Lord.
How to preserve your dignity at home and outside.
And how to benefit your female folk through knowledge and Nasiha (sincere admonishment and conformance). For indeed striving and investing in knowledge pays the best interest.

Lastly, understand those from whom you take knowledge from….. Put emotions and western ideology/culture at bay and learn more about Islam in line with the way of the salafs as-saliheen (righteous predecessors)

May Allah increase us in understanding, preserve our teachers upon goodness and rectify the affairs of this Ummah (Islamic nation)

Aameen

Written by: Bint Abdulgoniyy Ummu Sumayyah

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND UPBRINGING FROM THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(concluding part)

One of the major things a parent must try to teach their children is how to be conscious of their Solaat….. It’s so disgusting when a mother is careless about the solaat of their children thinking they are still young. Don’t wait till 7 years before commanding them to pray. Get them used to it before that age….. Children who are cognizant of their solaat prior to age 7, need not anyone to force them to pray…..
But if your own children still find it difficult to pray at that age, then you compel them to do so…… As for solaat, do not take it lightly upon them.
If they resist on praying at age 10, flog them and don’t spare them. But if you yourself as a mother do not care about their solaat at that age, then you have a serious problem….. It’s pitiful seeing a child of 8 or 9 still toying with solaat or do not know how to pray properly. the best you could do as a parent is, to build your children from the very early stage of their life……
A lot of children will be compelled to pray at age 10 and they still feel reluctant towards it… This is an issue that brought tears to one’s eyes.

Lastly, enjoin your children to seek for Islamic knowledge…..Teach them about Tawheed, Correct creed (Aqeedah), Qur’an and others …… I don’t know why some Sunni still toy about their children’s Islamic education…. The fitnah from the people of innovation this days, is lack of proper knowledge….. We don’t know what will happen in the future time, so we need to start impacting better things on our children……

This is for the parent, most especially the mothers because I believed that, ”a good wife builds a good home” ….When the woman lack proper knowledge, the children inevitably become victim of it. Thus, the saying goes, ”charity begins at home”……

Enjoy this from part one to the end as you enjoy other stories…..

May Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes, rectify the affairs of this ummah and grant us everlasting happiness (Jannah).

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND UPBRINGING FROM THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(part 5)

As a religious family, don’t let environment to train your children….. It is disdainful seeing a niqobite children cursing or using bad slang and you as a mother feel adamant towards it……
The issue of exposing children to play outside is a ill-hearted idea……. Stop quoting from those that do say; children get dull when they don’t play outside…….. The way children play indoors is sufficient for a good or proper training for them especially if you know the type of environment you live. Some environments are so corrupt that when kids initiate talk, they do so using foul languages….. This is worth crying for a parent if truly you want them to be upright…..
The environment we find ourselves is unconducive that the best thing to do, is to allow your children to be indoors while also distancing your children from anyone who will get them used to foul or offensive language as part and parcel of their character……

Another point to draw also is how do we train our children to be bold? When they (children) are with their family, friends or visitors, force them to talk…..
Organize an avenue in your home where the husband give lectures and you give them room to say their mind and to equally contribute to the subject matter……. With programmes like this, they build confidence and the courage to express themselves. An avenue like such aforementioned can prepare them to give Da’awah anywhere they are, and they will have something good for the world to benefit…..

May Allah make it easy for us all

To be continued…

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.