TANGIBLE REASONS WHY MARRIAGE CRUSH EASILY THIS DAYS, Part 2

Fourthly,

Seeking advises from different angles….. Bringing your marital affairs to social media in order to seek advise, at the end of the day they misled you….
Exposing about your marital affairs to zayd and bakr……

Lastly, (Vital point)

How much more have you learn about your religion and aqeedah??…..

When you yourself refused to know about the aqeedah of the salaf(pious predecessors) how will you know wheather to accept an innovators or a sympathizer’s proposer…… Or the chameleon people hiding under the shield of salafiyyah….. Those that innovate into the deen that has been completed, and those that can be mannerless to their Lord by supporting filthy manhaj(methodology) for worldly sake….Did you think they won’t toy with your heart too….. Marrying someone you can’t trust with your religion,how did you expect him to handle your heart??…..

Sisters wake up, don’t let them fool you with big grammar,certificate and love story….. Test the aqeedah and religion of your intending spouse, once he compromise his religion because of you….trust me, my sister he will compromise your love for the sake of worldly affairs ….. Because anytime he see someone that’s more better than you in beauty or qualification, it’s either he divorce you or start maltreating you….because he, from the beginning he is hiding under the shield of salafiyyah….. So they got you brainwashed so as not to marry sohih brother by tagging them as salafy thugs, ill manners and all sort of names just because they hate the path of the salaf(pious predecessors).
Infact, some would tell you lies that, they won’t marry two wives because their brain is full of western ideology which you too also want. Some years after Nikkah, they want to marry second wife…. You will start frustrating your life and at the end you got divorced.

Majority of this chameleon people I.e those with bad intention that are pretending to be Sunni, you will hardly see them amidst of the salafiyyah(people with correct creed) rather they prefer the so deviant callers because their sayings will suit their personal interest. We seek Allah’s refuge.

Although shayton can come in between the marriage of two pious heart (which is rare), that doesn’t mean they are bad but that can just be a test for them …. May Allah safe us from the fitnah of divorce.

May Allah bless our brothers upon salafiyyah (those with correct creed)..they will not pretend whom they are to you… May He grant them more understanding and istiqomoh…and provide them a good spouse.

May Allah ease the affairs of sisters….make their marriage an happy one and provide them a good spouse.

Written by: Bint Abdulghoniyy Ummu Mujaheed, may Allaah preserve her.

TANGIBLE REASONS WHY MARRIAGE CRUSH EASILY THIS DAYS

Firstly…..

Did majority of us see marriage as Ibadah?? NO

Marriage is not a place you will just go and have fun alone….. You can face some trials but as long as you know it part of ibadah….. You will always turn to Allah whenever you face a trial…. When preparing for marriage, we do use our night to have fun instead of seeking Allah’s intervention as prescribed by the prophet, Sallallohu ‘alaehi wasallaam ….. Have it in mind that everything you are doing for your husband you shall have reward for it….. If you have this in mind, and fear Allah you will always try to please him to have the mercy of your lord.

Secondly,

Sisters do rush into marriage without proper steps and discussion…..
Steps like ….. Istikharoh, istisharoh, meeting one’s parents I.e did your parent have any discussion with him,did he have regards for them…. So if issues occur he will be respecting your parent before he misbehave…… Or he just come and you rushed in picking up a date for aqd….. Those that marry from  right source gan did you think they are free from trial ?? Not to talk of you  that didn’t present your family too well and you Don’t even take a step to know about his family and his background.

Thirdly,

Excessive packaging….. Sisters are full of excess packaging, when you meet some sisters for the first time their mode of saying teslim lasan,how they package outside and how they pretend to be masha Allah (effizy po)….when they are about to do Nikkah,they keep asking religion questions every time from the intending spouse so as to portray themselves well allas reverse is the case, for instance: they keep waking him up for tahajjud through phone calls and text mssgs, small thing they will start twisting voice and brothers head too will start swelling and reacting like chemical, they will start expecting high after Nikkah….. but afterwards the story changes ….. Abu will be like is this not sister fulanah that I got married to??…..smiles
No one is saying you shouldn’t be good,but be real and let them know your weak point so they can know where to start their work from and to know the true picture of whom they are about to engage(deal) with…..  LET THEM ACCEPT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE AND DON’T OVER STATE YOURSELF

To be continue………

Written by: Bint Abdulghoniyy Ummu Mujaheed, May Allaah preserve her.

WHERE IS THE IKHLAS??

Ask yourself this question….. Checking our ourselves once a while is very important,and it becomes praiseworthy when one does that on daily basis.

Do you think you are becoming adamant to accept the truth because of your personalty (position, status) etc???…..

Be mindful of this question,why do I get affected and hurted when the ikhwanul Muslimoon are being refutted??

Is it because of my status and worldly benefits??
Or because some of my friends and my Uztadhs still romance with them?

Or because you dont want to offend people?

Sincerely, i do not know the significance of your personality at the expense of the deen,you do not want a stain on your personality but you can fold up your hands for people to talk ill of your religion?? …..
Does this ever sound good?

It is apparent and obvious that the excuse of ill-mannerism is not the problem of majority,it is certain that self desire is their problem, they only use the excuse of manner as a disguise….. Our teachers are refuting/correcting with manners,accept the truth from them and stop deceiving yourself please…..

It quite sadden to see some among those known to be on the right path deviating from this path…. Do you think the brothers will leave you?….. The love they have for you then won’t let them leave you rather they will keep refuting ur heresies so as to open your eyes to the truth… …. Your enemies are those keeping mute on your deviations rather that cautioning,they keep praising you….

You claimed to be mannered in your dealings, but because you don’t want brothers to correct your mistake, you prefer to cooperate with the innovators to wage war against the brothers, those that do not even understand the word salafiyyah, they rubbished the methodology of the salaf and you feel comfortable with them….. Where is the manner please????

The manner you claimed to posses that can’t even make you defend your religion, where is that manner for Allāh’s sake?
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Please stop being chameleonic,stop hiding under the umbrella of salafiyyah …..
Have you forgotten that you shall be alone one day in your grave?….
Your friends that are innovators that turn you to a sympathizer will not be there ..
Your personality willn’t go with you (subhanalloh) what personality are we to defend if not the personality of Islam….
Your position will not follow you.
Those likes and comment that stop you from saying the truth will not follow you, it will rather implicate you..

Let be sincere with ourselves….. Have we made our stances cleared to people ??

We claimed to be sincere (smiles),we know our minds wallohi, a Yoruba adage says okunkun oni kun ki oni nu maa ma inu re ….. Stop deceiving yourself, are you bold enough to refute the ikwanul Muslimoon in the presence of anyone??
Majority can’t say yes to this….

We are now in the era of “like a salafi post and I block you” Infact some are just bold to refute the Sufi, but when it comes to a clear error from their friends they will say they just want to write about it…. years to that time you won’t see the writeup….
Is this what you call ikhlas ???

When we are not following our dear parent blindly, even when we see their mistakes we call their attention towards it….so why will I be following a so called scholar blindly or dodging myself for friendship sake….

By Allah brothers are not happy with the way many are deviating from the truth, that’s why they keep refuting….. Unity can never be upon falsehood …..

If you claim that they don’t have manner,are they not always right too…. ??

Sit down and check through your mind,accept the truth and come out to refute and correct the brothers with manners too

Did you think you can correct a brother for not having manners whereas you display Joy with the word of the innovators …..or you sympathize with them

Surely, if you support the truth and stop sympathizing….. If you correct brothers they will surely accept bi idznillah

All this manners you are even claiming and disassociating yourselves from the truth…. Why are you yet to stop your sisters and wives from using khimar and niqob??

I asked this because, did you realize that some Hijabite possess some attitudes which make people talk ills of the sisters….. At times they say we lack manners,we are too arrogant, we are too dirty…. Is it all of us that possesses these attitudes… Infact just little do, as you know not everyone will be the same….. So why are you yet to remove their khimar from them to disassociate them from such character…..

Let us be sincere…..

We will be glad when unity exist amdist the ikhwah but it can’t and can never be upon falsehood….

May Allah grant us more ikhlas in our dealing, forgive us and ease the affairs of this ummah from this present pandemic….. Ameen

May He keep protecting our scholars for their firmness upon the truth…..may He bless them and grant them their heart desire through halal means….Aamiin

Written by: Bint Abdulghoniyy Ummu Mujaheed, May Allaah preserve her.