ROLE REVERSAL

I don’t know what prompted me, but I noticed the ratio of women to men in a banking hall recently and wondered why this particular bank virtually employed only women; then I was in another on another occasion and the story was the same. I then said to myself: Poor men, their jobs have been snatched. Except for security concerns, some banks would employ no men at all.

When women sit at home, the work environment is less licentious, husbands and children get the best care and marriages and societies fare better. When men sit at home, the rest of the story is yours to tell…

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَىٰ ۖ
“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.” [Qur,aan 33:33].

Written by: Sheikh Murtado Adedokun, Hafidhahullah.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND UPBRINGING FROM THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(concluding part)

One of the major things a parent must try to teach their children is how to be conscious of their Solaat….. It’s so disgusting when a mother is careless about the solaat of their children thinking they are still young. Don’t wait till 7 years before commanding them to pray. Get them used to it before that age….. Children who are cognizant of their solaat prior to age 7, need not anyone to force them to pray…..
But if your own children still find it difficult to pray at that age, then you compel them to do so…… As for solaat, do not take it lightly upon them.
If they resist on praying at age 10, flog them and don’t spare them. But if you yourself as a mother do not care about their solaat at that age, then you have a serious problem….. It’s pitiful seeing a child of 8 or 9 still toying with solaat or do not know how to pray properly. the best you could do as a parent is, to build your children from the very early stage of their life……
A lot of children will be compelled to pray at age 10 and they still feel reluctant towards it… This is an issue that brought tears to one’s eyes.

Lastly, enjoin your children to seek for Islamic knowledge…..Teach them about Tawheed, Correct creed (Aqeedah), Qur’an and others …… I don’t know why some Sunni still toy about their children’s Islamic education…. The fitnah from the people of innovation this days, is lack of proper knowledge….. We don’t know what will happen in the future time, so we need to start impacting better things on our children……

This is for the parent, most especially the mothers because I believed that, ”a good wife builds a good home” ….When the woman lack proper knowledge, the children inevitably become victim of it. Thus, the saying goes, ”charity begins at home”……

Enjoy this from part one to the end as you enjoy other stories…..

May Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes, rectify the affairs of this ummah and grant us everlasting happiness (Jannah).

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.

PARENTS: AN EARLIER TRAINING AND UPBRINGING FROM THEIR EARLIER STAGE IS REQUIRED AND NEEDED…(part 5)

As a religious family, don’t let environment to train your children….. It is disdainful seeing a niqobite children cursing or using bad slang and you as a mother feel adamant towards it……
The issue of exposing children to play outside is a ill-hearted idea……. Stop quoting from those that do say; children get dull when they don’t play outside…….. The way children play indoors is sufficient for a good or proper training for them especially if you know the type of environment you live. Some environments are so corrupt that when kids initiate talk, they do so using foul languages….. This is worth crying for a parent if truly you want them to be upright…..
The environment we find ourselves is unconducive that the best thing to do, is to allow your children to be indoors while also distancing your children from anyone who will get them used to foul or offensive language as part and parcel of their character……

Another point to draw also is how do we train our children to be bold? When they (children) are with their family, friends or visitors, force them to talk…..
Organize an avenue in your home where the husband give lectures and you give them room to say their mind and to equally contribute to the subject matter……. With programmes like this, they build confidence and the courage to express themselves. An avenue like such aforementioned can prepare them to give Da’awah anywhere they are, and they will have something good for the world to benefit…..

May Allah make it easy for us all

To be continued…

Written by: Bint Abdulganiyy Ummu Sumayyah, may Allaah preserve her.