The least to be taken from these verses and their likes is that they allow the one who has been wronged to defend themselves with the truth without infringement and injustice, as Allah, Ta’aala, said:
“لَّا یُحِبُّ ٱللَّهُ ٱلۡجَهۡرَ بِٱلسُّوۤءِ مِنَ ٱلۡقَوۡلِ إِلَّا مَن ظُلِمَۚ “
( Allah Loves not public mention of evil except by one who has been wronged
And the Sunnah emphasizes and explains that,for instance his statement, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, to Aisha when one of the co- wives transgressed on her.
He said to her,
(You can defend your self)
“فأقبلت عليها حتى رأيتها قد يبس ريقها في فيها، ما ترد علي شيئا، فرأيت النبي – صلى الله عليه وسلم – يتهلل وجهه”
” Consequently I turned to her until I saw that her saliva dried up in her mouth and she couldn’t reply me any more. Then I saw the Prophet, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, beaming “
Al- Bukhari recorded this in ” Al-Adab Al- Mufrad” and others with authentic chain. And it was brought out in volume 4 of ” As-Sahīhah ( 1862)
Hence, I hope from those readers not to hasten to criticize [me] for I am wronged by a lot of those who claim knowledge, some of them may be even among those thought to be with us on the methodology of the Salaf. However, if he is such, then he is among those that hatred and envy has eaten their liver as we have it in the hadith
” The disease of the people before you has crept to you: envy and hatred; and this is al-haaliqah [i.e, the shaver] which shaves the deen and not the hair” (Listen, no one should behave foolishly towards us, lest we behave more foolishly towards those that have behaved foolishly)
I seek refuge with Allāh from being among the foolish ones.”
[Silsilatatu al-Ahaadīth ad-Da’eefah, vol. 1/ 29]
In addition to what the sheikh has, I say let’s avoid abusing people as much possible when doing refutations. The Prophet,
sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, said:
” المستبان شيطانان يتهاتران و يتكاذبان”
( The two abusing each other are two shaitans; they talk recklessly and tell lies against each other) Ahmad reported this.
However, if one starts the abuse first, the other has the right to return it as long as he doesn’t transgress.
The Prophet, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, said,
“المستبان ما قالا فعلى البادئ ما لم يعتد المظلوم”
( [ The sin of ] whatever the two abusing each other say is on the one that starts first as long as the one wronged does not transgress. ) Muslim and others reported this.
So the one who abuses people and doesn’t love to be abused is a joker. Is either he honours himself by refuting with evidences ( even with this some people will stil abuse him) or he laces his refutations with abuses which calls for similar ones and even prevent his readers from benefiting from truth he says.
Yes, it is permissible to reciprocate, but for one to pardon and overlook is the best and this is in accordance with Allāh’s statement
“وَلَمَن صَبَرَ وَغَفَرَ إِنَّ ذَ ٰلِكَ لَمِنۡ عَزۡمِ ٱلۡأُمُورِ”
( Whoever shows patience and forgives, verily this is among matters recommended. )
However, if that increases the evil or affects the truth, then it is compulsory to reciprocate it if one has the ability to do such.
Written by: Sheikh ‘AbdulGaniy Juma’h, Hafidhahullah.