Praise be to Allāh the Lord of the world; may the blessing and peace be upon the noble Prophet Muhammad, SALLALLAHU ‘ALAEHI WASALLAM, his household and companions all together.
What I have observed in life is that the more we try to please the innovators and the idolaters, the more the compromises we make and the farther away from the true Islam we are. We should rather relate with them according to the provision of the Qur,ān and Sunnah; we shouldn’t go to the extreme and we should not be too lenient.
“ولن ترضى عنك اليهود ولا النصارى حتى تتبع ملتهم “
Translation of its meaning
( The Jews and the Christians shall never be pleased with you until you follow their way)
He also says:
“يأيها الذين إن تطيعوا الذين كفروا يردوكم على أعقابكم فتنقلبوا خاسرون”
Translation of its meaning:
(O you who believe! If you obey those who disbelieve, they will turn you back on heels and you will become losers)
He also says:
” ودّوا لو تدهن فيدهنون“
Translation of its meaning :
( They wish that you should compromise with them so that they can comprise with you)
The Prophet, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, also says:
“مَنِ الْتَمَسَ رِضَاءَ اللَّهِ بِسَخَطِ النَّاسِ كَفَاهُ اللَّهُ مُؤْنَةَ النَّاسِ، وَمَنِ الْتَمَسَ رِضَاءَ النَّاسِ بِسَخَطِ اللَّهِ وَكَلَهُ اللَّهُ إِلَى النَّاسِ ” الترمذي
(Whoever seeks Allāh’s pleasure at the expense of the displeasure of the people, Allah will be sufficient for him from the people. However, whoever seeks the pleasure of the people not minding the displeasure of Allah, Allāh will abandon him to the people.) At-Tirmidhi.
This, however, should not be mistaken for nicety. Islam preaches nicety to people generally as long as they do not wage war against us or declare enmity against us or assist the enemies against us.
“لا ينهاكم الله عن الذين لم يقاتلوكم في الدين ولم يخرجوكم من دياركم أن تبرّوهم وتقسطوا إليهم إن الله يحب المقسطين “
Translation of its meaning
(Allah does not forbid you from being nice and just to those who do not fight you nor evict you out of your houses. Certainly Allah loves the just ones)
Asmā, may Allāh be pleased with her, said,
“قَدِمَتْ عَلَيَّ أُمِّي وَهِيَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قُلْتُ : وَهِيَ رَاغِبَةٌ ، أَفَأَصِلُ أُمِّي ؟ قَالَ :
” نَعَمْ، صِلِي أُمَّكِ “
(My mother who was a polytheist came to me during the time of the Messenger of Allāh, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam. So I asked the Messenger of Allah saying: ” My mother wants to connect me, I can I connect her? He ( the Messenger) said, ” Connect your mother.”)
Note: If her mother had wanted her to do what is haram, it would have been forbidden to obey her as we have it in the case of Sa’d bn Abi Waqqās whose mother wanted him to leave Islam and consequently she decided not to eat and drink for three days upon which she fainted. All this did not make Sa’d abadon his religion.
Allah mentions the ruling of this in the Qur,ān.
Sumarrily, pleasing the kuffar and the innovators at the expense of your deen is dangerous for you. You can’t please them except by compromises. The Prophet, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, said:
“إِذَا رَأَيْتُمُ الَّذِينَ يَتَّبِعُونَ مَا تَشَابَهَ مِنْهُ، فَأُولَئِكَ الَّذِينَ سَمَّى اللَّهُ، فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ” رواه مسلم
( When you see those who follow the ambiguities in it ( Qur,ān) these are the ones He ( Allah) has mentioned, so avoid them)
He, sallā Allāhu alayhi wa sallam, did not say “mix with them”, rather he said, ” avoid them”
Even when you want to debate with them you ought to exercise caution,lest they influence you. Ibn Battah al-‘Ukbari mentioned in “al-Ibābah” the case of some upright people who were known to oppose the innovators, they would attack, abuse and curse them,but they later lured these upright people to their side with hidden trick and mutual smiling, although those people sat with them originally with the intention of debating with them but they were eventually won to the side of the innovators.
O Allah, make our feet firm on the path that pleases you!
Written by: Sheikh ‘AbdulGaniy Juma’h, Hafidhahullah.